Playing hard to get! we all know what it connote and i wont bore you with the definition. She’s playing hard to get to gauge your interest and level of commitment, from my chats with various girls/ladies certain facts were revealed. Women who act demure at first are mainly looking to weed out guys who want one-night-stands rather than real relationships, says a girl (names won’t be mention for privacy reasons)
But is your new lust playing an evolutionary dating game or is she just not that into you? Don’t feel bad if you’re not sure—you’re wired to think she’s interested, even if she’s not, “Men suffer from sexual over-perception bias,” Girl 2 explains. “It causes them to perceive more interest from a woman than there might actually be.” Here are five ways she regularly plays hard to get, and how to determine if she’s interested—or if you’re seeing something that’s just a figment of your imagination.
How to know if she will ever accept you?
1. She doesn’t answer your texts right away
Her phone is practically super-glued to her hand—hell, she’s updating Twitter right now—so why isn’t she texting you back? “When you hide behind the veil of technology by texting or communicating via social media, it’s hard for her to gauge where she stands,” says Girl 3. Admit it—the reason you texted her in the first place is because texts are inherently low-risk and noncommittal.
She’s still interested if: She responds to a more direct, personal form of communication, such as a phone call. “She wants to know that you think she’s special, and that you appreciate her time,” Girl 3 explains. While texts can be crafted in seconds and sent to multiple recipients at once, phone calls are one-on-one.
2. She’s always busy
She’s turning down your invitations left and right, claiming excuses such as “best friend’s birthday,” and “got invited to an album listening party.” There are three possibilities: She’s a crazy-busy social butterfly, she’s not interested, or she’s sending a message. “She wants you to know that she’s not just sitting at home, waiting around for you to call,” says Mimi. “It’s how she protects herself from ending up in a too-casual relationship.”
She’s still interested if: She says “yes” to invitations that are not last-minute. “She doesn’t want you to think that she’s free all the time, or that she’s willing to drop everything to be with you,” says Mimi (not real name) “But if you get rejected more than once or twice—and you definitely gave her enough notice, she might just be dodging your advances.”
3. She talks about other guys
Her ex. Her best guy friend. Her male colleagues. The guy who hit on her at the bar last night. If she’s constantly talking about the other men in her life, she’s probably trying to signal to you that she’s a hot commodity. “This is where the supply-side economics theory can be applied,” says Mimi 2 “She wants you to know that she’s not just busy, she’s busy hanging out with other guys.”
She’s still interested if: Her guy-talk is strictly non-romantic. For example, she’ll tell you about a guy who hit on her and then mention how weird he was. “It’s her way of nudging you and letting you know there’s competition,” says Rose (informal match maker). “But she also wants you to know that you’re the first in line.”
5. She’s mysterious
She’s the opposite of an over-sharer: She’s busy, sometimes flaky, and always vague about the details. When you ask her about her day, she hints at an exciting event at work but fails to follow through with the story. She tells you she’ll be away all weekend, but she doesn’t mention where or why. “She believes that you’ll find her more intriguing if she cultivates an air of mystery,” Blue says. “She doesn’t divulge all the details to you, and it drives you kind of crazy.” The details may not be all that interesting, but she’s putting lots of effort into being mysterious in front of you.
She’s still interested if: Her “air of mystery” is focused on relatively unimportant topics, such as work, or where she’s going when she leaves your apartment at 7 a.m. She wants to keep you questioning, says Violet, but she doesn’t want you to question the big things, such as your relationship. She may be vague about her weekend plans, but she’ll start talking if you start ask her about other guys.
Recently i have been hearing tales of how a guy followed a girl for 3 years and the girl keeps playing hard to get, alas after the 3rd year she gave in. can i be so patient like this? lol The patient dog eat the fattest bone they say! i’m a kind of person that set target in what i do, i believe in achieving things in lesser time. Two weeks max is set to follow a girl after which i relent. funnily, after the expired 2 weeks those girls will be the one calling, you know as the thing go? they will never speak out their mind. sorry to say the rule of marginal utility applies. After several scenes of your ‘hard to get’ i lose interest in you
Guys and Babes share your ‘hard to get’ experiences with us.
PS: all names and acronyms used are not real names of those who share their views. thanks